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A perfect day

On Saturday, November 15,we skipped the Prop 8 protest rally and march and went on a school tour (the neverending kindergarten research project — trying to find the best 7 schools for us out of 70+ in San Francisco) with Lucy and her friend Lulu (and Lulu’s moms).  Lucy and Lulu thought the tour was dull.  They put on princess nightgowns and told secrets in the playground nextdoor.

In the afternoon, Lucy and I took a tricycle ride (her on trike, me walking) to Cliff’s Variety store in the Castro so she could spend her $22 on whatever she wanted.  She picked a pirate and some treasure.  We ran into some friends – Fred, Minne, Jonathan, Sarah, Esther – and then headed over to Eureka Rec Center where Lucy and Sarah balanced on the teeter totter:

We noticed police shutting down streets near the playground and decided to head home and see what all the fuss was about — it was a sit-in in the middle of 18th/Castro protesting Prop 8:

When we got home, my flyclear card had arrived in the mail – I’m officially not a terrorist!

Then we scampered off to Paul’s birthday party in his backyard with a fire pit and chili (not sure if it was really vegetarian or not but I was polite and just ate it) and yummy s’mores and, according to Lucy, “fun creepy paths” to wander around the dark garden.  There was chitchat at the party about prop 8, about someone who’s getting married soon, and I did my best to try to avoid it.  I still can’t stop the tears sometimes when people talk about prop 8 and I don’t want to be pitied by straight people.  I was slightly relieved when Lucy pulled me away to go play somewhere.  Sometimes a child’s whining is a good excuse to get out of an awkward adult conversation.

feeling the love

on my walk home tonight, up market street, from civic center towards the castro, I was blissfully assaulted multiple times by people holding No On Prop 8 signs on street corners and yelling and whistling at cars. I know I live in a bubble and tonight, after weeks and months of anxiety over Prop 8 I felt overwhelming support and love for the first time. I’m wearing part of the same outfit that Michelle Obama wore on the Tonight Show last week-hoping for President Obama. Now I’m hanging at the Westin St Francis with the No On 8 crowd which is much fun and excitement. I filled my flask with an Old Pal cocktail (whisky, campari, dry vermouth, blood orange) and “had” to share it so I’m going to find another drink soon.

It started with a box of Candinas chocolates

I didn’t mention the chocolatier (in the NPR story linked below) that inspired (along with Gavin Newsom’s decision) our first wedding in San Francisco. The chocolates were from Candinas chocolatier in Verona, Wisconsin. They’re delicious subtle chocolates – the kind of chocolates that disappear too quickly and you wonder, “did I really eat all of those?” And, yes, you did – every delicious treasure.

Lesbian Couple Hopes Third ‘I Do’ Proves Charm is an NPR All Things Considered story about me and Moya. We’re so thrilled and overjoyed that we can, after 11 years as a couple, marry each other in the state and city where we live here in California. It overwhelms me with giddy happy joy!