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Entries from March 2009

Passing it on

March 23, 2009 · 2 Comments

The last time I saw her, she won this game of Tri-ominoes

The last time I saw her, she won this game of Tri-ominoes

For all of my life so far I had the best gift anyone has ever given me: unwavering, continuous, perfectly relentless, dependable, unconditional, gracious support and love.  This helped me grow and develop a sense of humor and a smidgen of kindness and a spot of generosity.  I strive to pass on a similar gift.

This is what you shall do: Love the earth and sun and the animals, despise riches, give alms to everyone that asks, stand up for the stupid and crazy, devote your income and labor to others, hate tyrants, argue not concerning God, have patience and indulgence toward the people, take off your hat to nothing known or unknown or to any man or number of men, go freely with powerful uneducated persons and with the young and with the mothers of families, read these leaves in the open air every season of every year of your life, re-examine all you have been told at school or church or in any book, dismiss whatever insults your own soul, and your very flesh shall be a great poem and have the richest fluency not only in its words but in the silent lines of its lips and face and between the lashes of your eyes and in every motion and joint of your body.

- Walt Whitman

The death of my dear grandma is heart-breaking gut-wrenching shoulder-tightening and excruciating hurt.

Categories: happiness

“protecting the moat while we allow the castle to burn down”

March 5, 2009 · Leave a Comment

That’s what San Francisco Deputy City Attorney Therese Stewart said today during the Prop 8 oral arguments at the California Supreme Court.  I love that quote.  Every time I read it I think of Lucy’s last birthday party with this castle that our friend Fred built.  A lot of Prop 8, for me, is about protecting my family, and particularly protecting my kid (which is what marriage is about).

Categories: civil rights · marriage · preschoolers · prop 8
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Protection and Prop 8

March 5, 2009 · Leave a Comment

This morning we took a much longer walk to get to preschool than usual.  We were avoiding the protests at the state building.  Lucy’s preschool is in the same state building as the California supreme court.  Usually we’d walk right up the steps where the protest was.  Today we took a wide berth and walked a block away around and through the other entrance.  Lucy wanted to know why we got off the streetcar one stop earlier and then why there were so many people and signs in front of “her school.” I asked her why she thought they were there.  She said, “It must be somebody’s birthday. It looks like a birthday party. But the signs look just black and white so they aren’t very colorful or pretty.”(We were too far away for her to see signs with rainbows)

We took a wide berth and walked 3 extra blocks and avoided the protest to protect her.  She doesn’t yet need to know that anyone thinks her parents don’t deserve to be married.  She only needs to know love and support and confidence in her family and friends.  At the Prop 8 Town Hall last week an adult woman stood up and talked, through tears, about how sad she felt when prop8 passed because her moms are married.

I was thinking about this protection when I was leaving the state building after dropping Lucy off at preschool.  She was happy on the couch with her friends, surrounded by teachers and kids who are all her friends and supporters.  Outside it was much different.  There were signs opposing gay marriage purporting that opposing our marriage also “protects” children.  And then there were all the children holding or standing with adults who were holding varieties of yes-on-8 signs.

Why do they bring their kids into this if they purport to protect children?  I like to give them the benefit of the doubt and hope they aren’t teaching their children to hate.  I hope.

Categories: marriage · preschoolers · prop 8
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